Reinventing Your Life

a wonderful book with so much insight. Incredibly helpful, and I love the practicality of this. It helps you identify what issues in life you are having, and then gives you insight into your issues. It then helps you work through your issues, in a logical step by step manner. This book doesn't just stop at validating that you know something is not right in your world. It helps you identify the issue, see where it originated, and deal with it. All sorts of issues. With very practical ideas, broken down into small manageable steps. Just started using this book about a week ago, but I feel like it has been more helpful than all the other self help books I have read over the years, and even several of the sessions of therapy I have gone through in life. I am a person who wants to actually do something about my issues, not just contemplate and re-hash old stuff. I want to deal with stuff, and move forward in life, and I think this book is an amazing tool for me to do so.

This is a great book with a great program. The title is sort of silly, and belies what is on offer. The format of the book is to identify different kinds of life traps, to evaluate yourself for them, and to work through them. There are about ten. Including Dependency, Subjugation, Defectiveness, and so forth. These are schemas (stories, scripts, and patterns) that you identify with and perpetuate, and they can keep you stuck. You may have heard of CBT. This is essentially Cognitive, Emotional, and Behavioral therapy. The authors maintain that it is useful to work on all three levels. One thing this book really helped me understand that there are reactive and counter-reactive elements to life traps. For example, someone with a Dependency life trap may fall into dependent, submissive patterns of learned helplessness. But some people can also be Counter-Dependent, covering over insecurity by being reactively and even aggressively independent. But the problem and the life trap are still there.

Lovely book to figure out where your problems come from in communication, relationships, success, etc

A fantastic book presenting the different lifetraps most people fall into and how to get out of them. Well-written with real-life cases of everyday people, making it warm and accessible. The marking scheme may seem a little complicated at first, but you soon get the hang of it. I now understand my own lifetraps and have the tools to stop history repeating itself.

The book deals with problems that many people face in life and clearly outlines the steps to overcome them. It’s an active read and requires the reader to do homework.