The Rational Male

I first came across Rollo's work though Elliott Hulse, and if Hulse recommends a book, it's got to be a great book, and this is more than a bloody great book, this is a transformational and groundbreaking piece of work. I was well informed on game before I read this book, however, I wasn't aware of intersocial dynamics to this extent, this information is such a gem that you need to go through it multiple times to realize how valuable it is. As a 19-year-old I feel it's an absolute pleasure to have stumbled across such information so early on, it opened my eyes to a wide range of hard truths that I see occur regularly around me that represents perfectly well what Rollo describes in the book. Once you read this book and have a look around, you realize how deprived we really are of positive masculinity as described in the book, and how 90% of men are still in the matrix, conforming to feminine idealizations and pedestalizing women to an unbelievable degree. The most disturbing fact of all is that they are totally oblivious of their blue pill conditioning, and this is exactly why it is the norm now and women are loving it while men are figuring out mindlessly how to get their ex back. I lost count to how many friends I have suggested this book, and it's fantastic to see friends becoming aware of such invaluable information, it's a chain reaction. If there's any single book you must read as a man, it has to be this book, and while you're at it just grab the other two volumes as well. PS. Many of your questions and curiosities associated with women and their nature will be answered after reading this book.

Before the sexual revolution, society and religion regulated the interactions between men and women so men could afford to be ignorant of female nature. The 60s brought sexual liberation, legalised abortion, the welfare state and universally available contraception followed by no-fault divorce and heavily female-centric custody laws. This gave women control over children birth combined with the legal hammer of child support and the safety net of the welfare state and heavily tipped the scales in their favour. Men, who had up to now been playing by the old rules, have been left confused and hurt by behaviours the seemingly irrational and often cruel choices of women that started after this power shift. The Rational Male is the first and seminal book that helps the male reader to make sense of this new dating landscape. Since its publication, there has been an explosion of 'Red Pill' authors and books on the same topic but nowhere is the information laid out more clearly or logically than in the Rational Male. The book explains female nature through the lens of the female sexual strategy of always looking to trade up (hypergamy.) When this is viewed not just as a desire, but as an imperative, we are shown how many confusing female behaviours become not only explainable, but predictable. Men have been guilty of taking a 'male-centric' approach and treating relationship problems with logic, communicating logically and expecting women to be logically consistent with their statements. For example, when a woman says that if a man does more housework she will be more willing in the bedroom, men can be fooled into thinking this is a logical trade and be puzzled by why she is still not in the mood after he has done the dishes. By using the framework in the Rational Male and observing rather than listening, men can begin to understand women and to adjust their behaviours to get what he wants from the relationship. The Rational Male is (literally) a life saving book and essential reading for any man, single, dating or married. This was the information your father never told you and the information he never had to learn. Buy this book and buy a copy for your closest male friend too.

As a man who has recently entered back into the sexual market place after a five-year hiatus, the rational male has been one of the foundation books of forearming me before stepping back into the arena. I tried the MGTOW thing after getting burned severely in my last relationship and turns out it wasn’t for me. Primarily because I both enjoy spending time with women and the potential growth that can be gained in relationships. Therefore, gaining red pill awareness to better place myself into a position that makes it less likely to get heavily burned again seems to be the best option available. It won’t guarantee it, but it stacks the odds more in my favor. And this book gives plenty of solid advice to better arm oneself at the outset. The key parts, for me personally, to take away from the book are: - to place yourself as the number one focus of your life and invest in yourself first and foremost - to only allow women as a compliment to your life, never the center of it - spend your time and energy on achieving your life objectives, and if entering a relationship maintain that same focus and drive permanently. And never allowing her to stop or change you in any way. - that soulmates are a myth, and instead, there are many ones out there, and if one relationship doesn’t work out then to just move on asap without ever looking back. - that it’s normal to catch ONEitis for one girl, and by understanding the psychology behind why this occurs makes it easier to deal with and move on from if a relationship doesn’t work out. As with everything in life, you must always take the good points and leave the bad (or the points you don’t agree with.) And in this case, although I completely agree with the psychology behind plate theory - which is knowing within oneself that you have plenty of other options if one girl doesn’t work out - having sex with multiple girls concurrently is something that doesn’t appeal to me. With that said, however, all the other advice in the book has equipped me with psychological tools I never had previously which has placed me in a stronger position now in regards to women, than before I read it. Also, The 9 Iron Rules of Tomassi included at the end of the book justify buying it alone. I refer back to these every few months or so which help keep me grounded, especially rule number one regarding frame. Thank you for your work, Rollo - it is much appreciated.

Rollo Tomassi is one of the Big Names and Elders of the Manosphere. But before you read his advice and theories, here's some context. In the UK, forty per cent of marriages end in divorce over a twenty year period, and thirty per cent of marriages end in divorce within ten years. Almost one in three children are raised in single-parent families, of which 85% are headed by the woman: nearly 5m boys and girls are growing up without even the presence of a father-figure, and it's been that way since the mid-1990's (UK Labour Force Survey 2012). One out of the next three twenty-somethings you meet won't know what it is to have a man in the home. At the other end of the scale, 10%-20% of married couples under 50 have perfunctory, once-a-month-or-less sex lives (Kinsey 2010) right alongside 60% or so of under-29 single men. Sounds terrible, a society in the course of destroying itself. Except that there are 11m boys and girls growing up in functional two-parent families, parents who, to judge by the statistic that over half the married couples under 59 have sex on a weekly basis, are in decent, mutually satisfying relationships. So the glass is more than half-full, not broken on the floor. More than half the world is Normal and has a reasonably satisfactory life, and the remaining fair chunk is some kind of mess that can range from a mild lack of social skills to the nightmare of a violent bi-polar partner. What doesn't come out in the numbers is that the two worlds rarely intersect: Normals raised in functioning households almost only ever associate with other Normals who were raised in functioning households. The Others - the screw-ups and socially-inept, the addicts, drunks, head-cases, users, abusers, shrews and swine, the Entitled Princesses, petty criminals, Daddy's Girls and Mommy's Boys - can only associate with each other, because the Normals simply don't go there. The emotional pain, the loneliness, the rage, anger and hopelessness, the euphoria, giddiness and lust, the booze, drugs, food, self-harm, obsessions, ONE-itis, fear, emptiness and confusion... everybody in Otherland has felt a lot of it from time to time. This is the world Rollo is writing about. I live there and I prefer to describe and think about it in moral terms. Rollo prefers a scientific - or at least evo-psycho - approach. He sees all those messed-up behaviours, especially the awful behaviour of women, and the way men are exploited by society to women's benefit, and thinks there is a pattern behind a lot of it. He mines, more deeply than anyone else, two ideas: a behaviour pattern called hypergamy and a social structure called the Feminine Imperative. Put these ideas together and we have a nightmare vision of a society in which, because all women are hypergamous, none of them are loyal, none can be trusted, all of them will challenge and test at any random time over any random fictitious issue, and any of them might detonate the marriage and family on a whim. In Rollo's relationships men do not have a moment's respite: like Bruce Springsteen's cab driver, we have to prove it to the boss every day, to the wife every night and to the kids at the weekend. Women are not supporters and comforters, but wilful, demanding drains on a man's time and energy. Keeping a marriage going means acting Alpha all the time - like the State's security forces, a husband must always be "on", while his guerilla-warfare wife can take time off to recuperate, build up strength and then make her next strike. The Feminine Imperative is the idea that society, economies and legal systems are not organised to benefit a small number of rich and powerful people, but rather to finance the needs and random whims of mostly privileged white women who create laws, policy guidance and media programming to propagate the idea that Anything She Wants, She Should Have, And Men Should Pay For It. Just as "hypergamy" is Rollo's take on "all men are bastards", so "The Feminine Imperative" is his twist on "The Patriarchy". Read The Rational Male with that context and it's okay: read it as if it's an explanation of every woman's behaviour, and the way you would expect your sister's suitors to behave, and you're going to start throwing the book against the wall. Unless you live in Otherland as well. I need to add that Rollo does not believe in Normal as I've described it: he really does seem to think that all wives are hypergamy-bombs only prevented from exploding by sufficient amounts of Alpha husbanding. <Digression mode on> Attempting to explain crazy is always a mistake. The point about crazy is that it can't be explained: that's what crazy means. The worst behaviour in Otherland is crazy, much of the rest is simply rude, crass and thoughtless, and what's left is just klutzy. None of that needs complicated explanations. The evo-psycho stuff in the book is optional, and I prefer to treat it that way. Life in Otherland has two basic shapes: I can join in with the chaos and abuse to whatever degree I can tolerate, or I can withdraw as much as possible and live a self-disciplined life. That is where MGTOW comes from: MGTOW's are avoiding the crazies and the users, and since they live in Otherland, that's a lot of the women. Rollo doesn't recommend MGTOW, but he does have a lot of other advice: some of it may strike you as paranoid, but remember he's advising men who don't have the radar to avoid relationships with full-blown DSM-V personality disordered women. <\Digression mode off> The Red Pill / Blue Pill thing? In the movie, the Red Pill is what forces the Matrix to reject you. Understanding that you live in Otherland, where the women are potentially toxic and an entire chunk of the legal system and popular culture is devoted to serving their needs and making you think they are actually "normal"... that's a Red enough Pill. But what's really going to bake your noodle later on is, asking why an entire chunk of the legal system is dedicated to supporting dysfunctional people, and why so much popular culture seems to be devoted to the portrayal of the dysfunctional lives of Otherland, and especially to making men look stupid. (Here's a clue: follow the money.) Should you read the book and the blog? Not if you are female. Unless you have worked with manipulative and dysfunctional women as a social worker or psychiatrist, nothing in your life can prepare you for the world Rollo describes, and you will never recover from the shock. If you are a regular middle-aged bloke who has marital intimacy on a weekly basis, the chances are you will wonder what kind of world and people need to read and think this stuff. If you are one of the men whose wives have stopped having sex with them, if you can't get over The One, if you don't understand why some girls say you're nice and then sleep with the Bad Boy, if you wonder where the positive male role models are in popular culture, if "you've felt...your entire life, that there's something wrong with the world. You don't know what it is, but it's there, like a splinter in your mind, driving you mad" then Rollo is your Morpheus.

I have been looking for a properly useful book on what makes the modern woman tick for years now. This one opens up the female mind for all to see and as the author himself asserts; its not pretty. If you are young and wondering what you are doing wrong in your "Game" with women, or older, like me, and wondering what the hell has happened to them in the age of feminism this book will explain all. Women of course will loathe this book. But it's not for them. It's for Men only (isn't that a shocking phrase these days). Most of what Tomassi has to say about women's minds and behaviours will be met with howls of protest and derision in our femcentric world. But it is the truth. It is truly wonderful to realize that the thrilling ideas of the PUA (Pick Up Artist) as exemplified in Strauss's magnificent "The Game", that I read a few years back, has morphed into a much deeper critical examination of women, men and the what our increasingly feminized society is doing to us. Tomassi does indeed talk much about "Game"; but on a much deeper level than merely Pick UP: he encourages us to internalize the mindset and behaviours which will help men to become, well, men; but men completely on their own terms and not in reference to any feminized ideas of what a man should be. If I had a teenage son I would buy him this book on his 16th birthday so that he would become aware of the "Feminine Matrix" and , hopefully, internalize Tomassi's messages. I believe what he has to say is that important. Buy this book. Take the Red Pill. Unplug yourself from the Matrix.

I've read this book twice as i had doubts , by my nature i'm skeptical . After i die , i'll cease to exist. Analyzing faults for living , i have apply the same methodology on second read , comparing with real life , i found out why women would do what they have done , always i had to discard them after a few months . I've never been settled down . I was never good enough for long term , i didn't had it , i was a "rebel" as a mindset , selfcentered since a kid,selfish as some said, had a troublesome childhood . Now getting this content, i can frame why , now i know and tried it for just a few years to get to be more of a beta mindset, reference from book, so to keep one of them closer to me , to make me some kids. But i'll still love them all to bits ,women out there , and i don't mean as a general reference , they seen me as one of pleiadians , aura males, just to play with me, they can't keep hands out of me . Because of it i got only five closer friends during my life ,many developed resentment of me . Reading this book made me be aware what i am in relation to this world . Have read many books especially the old psychoanalysis , as i mention i live to analyze and anayze to live , im a voracious reader with an iq of 131 and OCEAN test not pleasent for majority of average ppl . This book ties nods in the matrix , made me see the code . Literaly who will read will need to let go of old mindset , i would say imposible but yet our personalty is Plastic Mind , plactisity mind, brain can adapt,rewire, or heal, renew itself after trauma and compensate for disability if need be. One of biggest minds living today Shmuel "Sam" Vaknin can make good supositions on it but even him is biased , socialy programed as all of us . Today's human society needs men .

This is a really fascinating book to read and bravo to Rollo Tomassi for writing this book! Reading this book can make any man realise that everything they were raised to believe about society and women to be false. In fact the society men are living in is driven by the feminine imperative to maintain the feminine reality with the main purpose of optimising hypergamy, a female reproductive strategy where women are driven to find the best mate as possible to ensure a successful offspring as well as security for women. It explains that hypergamy is opportunistic by nature which gives an understanding on why women would either leave or cheat on their boyfriends and husband or do both, especially on the topic about Good Genes vs Good Dads which explains why women would go for the bad boys when they were young and would settle down with the nice guys when they get older. This book reveals the truth about the existence of a soulmate known as "the one" to be a social construct created to give people false hopes by getting them to believe there is a "one" for everyone or the "right one" when it can lead to disaster and disappointment for many. Reading this book can make men reflect on what they have done wrong with women in regards of pursuing relationships and marriage as well helping men to realise their own SMV along with their interactions with women. If anyone who is interested in topics involving masculinity, relationships and women, then this is the book to read.

Due to circumstances I won't bother to lay out, I became interested in hearing about what a lot of the concepts the so called 'manosphere' promulgate with the blog of the Rational Male being highlighted as a good first place to look. He has a book? Awesome! Makes my life easier. Anyway The book itself is mainly a collection of his first year of blogging with a bit of extra commentary here and there, unfortunately this proves to be the book's main weak point - ostensibly this book is aimed at the uninitiated (which I was) but frequently it casually throws in potentially alien concepts, like Game, discussed in a fashion that the reader knows full well what he's referring to for a significant length of the book, before he finally gets around to explaining just what the hell said concept actually is. There's also a bit of egregious editing early on in the book where a whole paragraph is repeated in the transition between chapters, which raises questions as to how qualified his proof reader was. I feel he might have been better served crafting a narrative from his available material than doing a copy-paste from his blog output. And better served he would be because if you're able to persevere with the book it quickly becomes fascinating, it truly is a different way of looking at the world which, no doubt to the chagrin of others, does appear to be quite valid. There's even the danger that Rollo's observations and attendant theories make sense of the 'Feminist Sex Wars' to the point that their happening was an easily predicted foregone conclusion, because Hypergamy. A lot of the advice he gives is pretty decent too, if in some cases rather mundane with a mix of shocking naivety on the part of men; for example his advice on always using condoms contains the idea that it's overwhelmingly women that convince men to not wear condoms because they want to 'feel them', while my own advocacy of condoms has instead hit the wall of men refusing to bother because they want to 'feel them' and instead pushing their girlfriends to take the pill. All in all however if you're looking for something to challenge your world view and change how you look at the world I recommend getting this book.

Das Buch öffnet einem die Augen darüber, wie unsere Gesellschaft zu 100% auf die Bedürfnisse von Frauen ausgerichtet ist. Diese feminisierte Kultur bekommt man schon als kleines Kind vermittelt, sie ist so allgegenwärtig, so selbstverständlich, dass man sie gar nicht mehr wahrnimmt. Sie ist so selbstverständlich wie das Wasser für den Fisch. Ohne so einen Augenöffner wie dieses Buch empfindet man nur ein diffuses Unbehagen und ein Gefühl der Hoffnungslosigkeit, wenn es um das Erreichen einer gute Beziehung zwischen Mann und Frau geht. Ich lese das Buch gerade ein zweites mal und finde es unfassbar, wie viel neue Erkenntnisse ich wieder gewinne. Bestimmt kann man es ein Leben lang immer wieder lesen und immer wieder neue Aspekte der auf die Frauen zugeschnittenen Realität erkennen. Und dadurch besser und bewusster damit umgehen. Es ist ein unschätzbarer Wegweiser auf dem Weg zu einer gesunden Beziehung und im Umgang mit Frauen. Man weiss dann, woher das diffuse Unbehagen kommt, trifft die richtigen Entscheidungen und vermeidet so viel Leid im eigenen Leben und im Leben von Kindern. Ich bin Rollo Tomassi zutiefst dankbar für seine Bücher.

I cannot recommend "The Rational Male" series of books highly enough to Men, particularly young Men. In a time of crisis a close friend gave me this book and it explained in excruciating detail the story of my life as a "Blue Pilled" male. Following the painful ending of my most recent relationship, and with a string of prior failed relationships. The Rational Male finally explained to me in language I could understand, how, and why this had been the case up to that point. Understanding female nature and the lies told to me by our culture properly has completely changed my life. "The rational Male" series, and the "Red Pill Awareness" I have gained from it has taught me to not hate women for what they can never be to me, but rather appreciate them for what they are. Some of that is not flattering to my old Blue Pill ideals. It is very much obscured in the culture and in the ever present media. Read the book and understand what you as a man should be to a woman, instead of the lie sold to you since childhood. Your life and your relationships with women will be far better for it. Thank you Rollo Tomassi.

The Rational Male is an insightful and a must read book about the intersexual dynamics in a deeper sense. Particularly in today's confusing genders roles, it's a eye opening study about inter and intra genders prospects.

One of the most moving books that I have ever read. I insist all men who haven't read it yet to read it with an open mind. Men gotta reclaim their due place in society before it's too late.

Ho letto più volte “The Rational Male” e lo considero un ottimo libro formativo e un pilastro della Red Pill. Credo che sia importante prendere certi concetti con le pinze e non farsi trascinare in fanatismi e ossessioni varie ed eventuali. Alcuni concetti sono molto interessanti e utili per il vivere quotidiano e le relazioni sociali e sentimentali, altri sono un po’ estremi e lasciano il tempo che trovano. Consiglio di leggerlo a cuor leggero, prendere i concetti che interessano e non fissarsi su ogni parola come se fosse un dogma.