No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

What can I say about this book? I’m a single man in my mid-30s, no children, and I ended a long-term relationship a while ago because I wasn’t happy. I thought life would instantly feel better, and in some ways it did, but dating again over the last year and a half forced me to confront some uncomfortable truths. I realised I’d never been good at setting boundaries. I ignored red flags. I stayed silent about what I truly wanted, whether with family, friends, colleagues, or especially with women I was seeing. Too often, I let relationships end not because I wanted them to, but because I was too anxious, too afraid of abandonment, and too terrified of being fully authentic. Reading No More Mr. Nice Guy has been a turning point. It’s helped me start setting boundaries with family and friends already, and I’m determined to carry that into dating when the time is right. The book has shown me how much of my life I spent trying to live up to a false image of what I thought people wanted me to be, rather than just being myself. More importantly, it’s teaching me to face my anxiety, sit with it, and not be afraid of being alone. For the first time, I feel I can enjoy life as it is, not as I think it should be. For any man who keeps repeating the same patterns in relationships or struggles with authenticity and boundaries, this book is a must-read. It isn’t always comfortable, and the work takes courage, but the payoff is real. If you’re ready to stop holding yourself back and start living a more honest, fulfilling life, read this book and apply it.

Dr. Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" is a revolutionary book that offers a profound journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Glover's insights into the "Nice Guy Syndrome" are eye-opening, providing readers with a clear understanding of how societal expectations and personal insecurities can lead to self-sabotaging behaviors. The book is not just about identifying the problem but also about offering practical, actionable steps to overcome it. Glover's writing is compassionate and relatable, making it easy for readers to connect with his message. His emphasis on embracing one's true self, setting boundaries, and pursuing personal fulfillment is both empowering and liberating. "No More Mr. Nice Guy" is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to break free from the constraints of people-pleasing and to lead a more authentic and fulfilling life. It is a must-read for those seeking to reclaim their power and live life on their own terms.

As a frustrated and therefore passive agressive 'nice guy' I found this book extremely helpful. The idea that I have made a contract with life that if I am nice to people then 'life' will have to meet all my emotional needs was not too much of a shock but nevertheless, starkly what I needed to read. Yes, it's a bit long but great material doesn't always come in great packaging. I will be recommending it to a friend who is a self-confessed people pleaser. The only thing I disagree with so far is the Mr Glover's idea that 'integrity is deciding what feels right and doing it'. Oh dear. The world is in trouble precisely because of those sort of sentiments. The right way is often the hard way and not the way that feels right at-all. Aside from this, thank you Mr Glover, really.

I am a typical ‘Nice Guy’. In fact I’m the ultimate Nice guy ( thats not a good thing it turns out!) . Im reading this book as i go through my inevitable divorce. I’ve been to therapy over several years and the concepts that they have spoken about are boiled down in simple language and relatable examples in this book. Its tough to see in print and the author encourages you to put the book down, go away and think / act on the changes. Having read this book on kindle Ive ordered a hard copy so i can re read, annotate and make notes. This is an important book to create positive change in resentful unfulfilled’Nice’ guys who are currently repeating the same program that was given to them as children. Good luck chaps.

This is a book that has had a huge impact on me after the first reading - I am about to start reading again (as advised by the author) The astonishing thing about this book is that it in every page the author seems to know me personally. I kept thinking 'that's me - I do that!' At first it was a bit scary and then hugely reassuring to know that my outook on life was so well understood and so commonly represented by millions of men around the world. Dr Glover takes apart the myth that the world today (especially women) want and respect 'nice guys'. Let's be clear, this book does not advocate being a jerk. It is not about being horrible, nasty, dumping on others or any other negative view that might spring to mind with this title. The author agonised a bit over the title and it has probably put a few off buying it but the thing is that Dr Glover explains in depth the issues of the 'nice guy' and so he is being real to himself and his readers by sticking to the title. If you are the sort of person who belives that others come first, that it is selfish to seek anything for yourself, that it is better to 'settle' than get what is your right - the right to achieve the most happiness that you can in this short life, then this is for you. So this is a book in two parts (albeit that they thread together). It points out common traits and behaviors, then it tells you why (including a history lesson that is very revealing) and then it gives you some great pointers about turning things around. You will also find out that Dr Glover has spoken to many women on this subject and they simply endorse the views that he talks about - that might be a shock to you! Sadly, I expanded my interest by signing up for one of his online classes and found that to be simply a money-spinner. The content is shallow, Dr Glover does not give any or at least hardly any of his time to each class , you are set homework in a discussion group that leaves you floundering to decide if you are on the right track or not. Quite pricey and really not necessary - enjoy the book and leave it at that. To your happiness ...

Dr Glover nails the topic of what causes Nice Guys, to get friend-zoned so often, get disrespected (not the same as being liked) in long term relationships, and how to break out of those patterns. He lays it all out there and the more a Nice Guy you are the more harrowing - in a positive way - you will find this book. I certainly found it a harrowing to read, but it has done me immense good. Seeing my unconscious beliefs about myself and about life spelled out in black in white has been incredibly powerful in helping me to let them go. I actually used to write about Nice Guy Syndrome some decades ago, but this book, No More Mr Nice Guy, goes into the topic in far more depth, for more profoundly and far more insight-fully than anything I ever managed to come up with - and that I have ever come across before. Hats off to Dr Glover and his book, No More Mr Nice Guy. If in doubt, buy it anyway. You’ll know someone who needs to read it for sure. While you are at it you might want to get my book so you can forgive yourself for all those mistakes and missed opportunities… https://read.amazon.co.uk/kp/embed?asin=B078SBYFQB&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_9hxsDb1H78G3M

Some pages had bad printing, sentences were written 2x, double overplayed text

I started noticing traits in my ex husband before I even knew about this book...he was extremelly nice and I found myself in a position where it was hard to refuse him anything even sex ..I did enjoy sex but the more time was going the more I saw a pattern where if I ever refuse him for a genuine reason he was nicely begging, taking it personally.. Same was going for any other part of our lives...he was passive, essentially reacting to anything I will initiate or do, passively disagreeing andultiamtely everything was left to me to do and he was just the assistant...basically never doing anything wrong... I was awkwardly finding myself being the difficult person gtting frustrated to sort out simple issue in our lives and I will take the blame for things... I started taking a step back and adopting some of his behaviour...I decided to be very passive and eventually I refused making any decision...he became angry and frutrated himself...I google, why is my husband so nice because his behavious is not being nice, it was a manipulative way to get what he wanted and a lazy way to scroll through life cowardly especially with women...I begun ressenting him...because I felt trapped by him...I never knew him, I will try hard to be his wife but he was hiding... When I googled this pattern I found this book, bought it and read it, joined the forum to find answers and eventually asked my husband if he wants to talk about the issue...he became angry for the first time and accused me of talking to other men...needless to say that he has always been jealous never interacting with guys and a bit of a loner...His best friend at our wedding was his dad's friend. I should have known something was not right then... I left him after i realised that his anger was mounting because his nicessness couldn't get me to do anything for him...I never regretted him such a breath of fresh not having this kind of man around me... I urge most men to own up to their manhood...the way it is described in this book..get help and help the woman if you truly are "nice"

Eye opening book for any men who think they are nice to others, but still unhappy themselves. If you think “I’m nice and I do the right thing for everyone, so I’m sure things will be great for me soon” this is the book for you. It’s not a book about how to be a jerk, it’s a book about how to be fair with yourself, figure yourself out, and make sense of why you feel stuck in spite of doing all the right things.

Writer is spot on with his observation on this topic. And direct straightforward advice. Good book.

A VERY VERY VERY GOOD BOOK TO BUY AND APPLY IT IN UR STRESSFULL DAY!

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I loved this book, it was the best choice I've ever made on a book. I found it deeply helpful. I don't want to use any more words to explain. I'm Italian and I understood every single word.