Mating In Captivity

Excellent book that helps us understand the marital life.

Esther is brilliant! This book is entertaining and insightful at the same time.

Good

Now that's what I call illuminating. Finally some gennuine work. Love the theme the idea about being two before being one. Love Esther Perel.

Book didn't look new. The paperback was slightly bent and one of the pages was torn a bit.

Good book on marriage.

Very bad book

The quality of cover and print sucks big time! And to think of I paid 599 for this cheap looking copy of book published by Harper Collins. I am disappointed!!!

Libro interessante, ben scritto con ottimi spunti di riflessioni per una maggior comprensione del proprio io e delle dinamiche di coppia Altamente consigliato!

I found this book helpful, after 35 years of marriage you would be surprised what YOU DON'T KNOW! It will bring that 'spark' back into an otherwise 'stale' bedroom. If your love life isn't what you want it to be, then this book is a must read WITH your partner (or, read it first and make BIG HINTS that he should read it as well). This book will bring the spark and magic back into your sex life, unless he's dead, things should improve greatly. Loved the title, and people who are shy don't have to wrap it in a paper bag to read it... those that are a bit on the shy side will also appreciate the authors' candor and clarity. Highly recommend this if you are married, single, divorced, or just starting out.... it covers all bases and is useful at ANY age! I rate this book highly.....

Fascinating stuff. Great theory and insights for anyone struggling to understand the sex in their relationships.

Read this book and you learn about the the difficulties of maintaining an erotc relationship with your partner. Its a great book witha lot of examples. A great mention was how our society perceives monogamy and how unfair it can be at times - a woman who marries, divorces, has relationships, re marries is considered monogamous if she is exclusive to one man in that period of time. But a guy in a 10 years relationship with only one woman, he has one fling - and the society throws rocks at him. Makes you think.....

This books has two major upsides for me : Firstly, it's packed with interesting and intuitive information that I personally felt made sense as I read it (and is also backed up by the author's research, obviously). It ditches the all too common relationship/libido step by steps instructions (fixing your relationships in 10 easy steps blabla...). Even though there are great books in this category (Jon gottman for instance), Perel instead explains simply some concepts about desire, sexual needs, and the way they can get messy with relationships. Don't be afraid, this book isn't gonna tell you that monogamy isn't a viable option, or that wanting passion in a 30 years old marriage is childish, or that you need to mature and that your cravings are a sign of something unhealthy. Instead, it celebrates them. She celebrates desire, and the magic that happens in a long term relationship when you manage to attain both sensuality and the warmth of safety. The stuff she covers is truly fascinating and eye opening about our own bias, fears and how the society we built triggers all of them. If you think that you lost interest in your partner because "you know them by heart" "you can't desire what you have" etc, boy, you're in for a ride that'll make you requestion what baggage and coping mechanisms and you are bringing to this relationship. And if you're tired of forcing yourself to have sex to please your partner and feeling both like you're not performing good enough for them, and like you're dysfunctional, this is not one of these books that'll tell you to push yourself harder. Secondly, the prose is beautiful, both simple and easily readable, while managing to stay lyrical with gorgeous vocabulary, which I enjoy as a non-english reader (hey, even when you're bilingual, simple prose is still better to read when your brain is fried after a long day). I do think she writes beautifully, and she also interwines her concepts with case studies, including a lot of dialogue that you most likely will relate to. It really lets the book breathe and makes her points shine. One last thing : she does talk about mostly american couples and speak of how Europe is different, and while it is true that we are - slightly - more open about sex, I disagree with the reviewer who said her points didn't match European behavior. Her points are based partly on education, culture, fears, bias and other deeply personal stuff. The thing is that nowadays, in first world countries such as, well, all Europe, america, etc, we've reached a point where culture has mingled and mixed up a lot. Her points don't contradict European culture, firstly because Europe's original culture is far from that idealized sex free and intellectual people, and also because her specific points apply just right to the specific "puritan but hedonist" culture, which is now everywhere in the world where there's been religion and also enough money to fill the hedonist pool. If you think this book only applies to americans, honestly, look around you. Overall, amazing book, would recommend. :)